Youth Is Wasted on the ‘OLD’ - The Voice of Youth

I love young people!  There, I said it!  For me they nurture my life spirit and the more they tell me where to go (in no uncertain terms), the more I feel drawn in by them.  These days there are so many mixed feelings running through my person.  Remembering my child welfare days where youth taught me so much about what it feels like to be in care.  I remember the heart-warming moments when a cherished colleague said, “Youth must have their own voice and we need to ensure their voice is heard.”

You know some of us have been around the block a few times.  A few of us even think that youth nowadays are beyond us.  The basic truth is that young people essentially are who they are yesterday, today and tomorrow.  We adults, on the other hand, are the product of the values, beliefs and assumptions we learned long ago about children and youth. (‘Seen….not heard.’  ‘Yours is not to reason why, yours is but to do….and die!’)  Some of those assumptions we were taught are rooted in power and control.  Adults had the power to keep things under control and the young benefited from that by being cared for and kept safe.  Children and youth were essentially powerless.  That’s just the way it was.

Youth in care, given our special consideration of their needs while under our watch, have been telling us new things for years now.  Have we been listening?  Have we acknowledged their courage and insight into what just might be needed by them?  Do we ever take the time to explore with them their hopes, dreams and wishes?  Do we help them to discover their gifts, interests, strengths and plans for their future?  I can remember the powerful impact one young person had on me when he said, “The only time my worker came to visit me was to talk about some problem or to move me to a new home.”  That statement was made over 30 years ago and its impact has never left me.

So maybe this is a good time for renewal!  You know Spring and all.  Maybe this is a good time to ask ourselves some soul searching questions.  Perhaps it is time to renew our study and research about youth engagement and how best to help guide their journey into the future.  Find some moments for yourself to reflect on whether you are a strength-based engager of young people: Do you explore dreams, feelings and hopes with youth?  Do you go for walks with them?  Do you accompany them for no good reason at all…except to just be with them?  Have you worked on your active-listening skills with youth?

Interested in some incredible reminders?  Search out the Provincial Advocate’s Office in Ontario or in your own province or state.  What are they doing to empower youth voices in their own care?  In Ontario our greatly valued colleague, Irwin Elman, is the Provincial Advocate who has surrounded himself with youth in and from care.  Together, these young people held public hearings on improving in-care and leaving care concerns…They have advocated for themselves for change to legislation and policy.  They submitted their own report from these hearings to the Ontario Legislature and are committed to seeing their recommendations kept alive through advocacy.  Their tag line:  Our Voice, Our Turn!

Theirs is a great read entitled, “MY (Real) Life Book”.   Read their own words in this publication and most importantly LISTEN to what they have to say.  They are truly profound!   To view this follow the link below: 

http://www.provincialadvocate.on.ca/main/en 

Some still say that ‘Youth is wasted on the young’.  If there is any truth to this adage, perhaps it is due to our adult inability or unwillingness to listen to their profound insights, dreams and wisdom about what they and their world really need.

Come, my friend, “Feed my Sheep”

Where will we all be in 10 years?  This is a question that can be examined from 2 major perspectives.  Where will I be?  And/or where will my Good Shepherd work be? For some years now some Good Shepherd friends have asked the question, ‘What’s gonna happen when the sisters are no longer able to run our agency?’  That time in Canada has come and gone.  None of our six agencies is owned or operated by the Sisters.  At best we have Sister representation on our Boards.  The 10 years has arrived!  Okay now what do we do?

This is really cause for some purposeful reflection.  What has been the base of our expressed value and continuity?  The Sisters….. yes, but why?  Is it because they were the most incredible youth care or social work or administrative wizards?  NOT!  Many were very good, some, ugh!!  They were the expressed value and continuity of our work because of one important ingredient that otherwise did not exist…..VOCATION>>>>They stayed!   Individual sisters were not prone to look at career path, improving income to support one’s family better, diversifying one’s challenge to grow professionally making one’s mark on the field.  It was because they were each members of a community group that vowed to pursue their single mission and stick with it even to death.  They don’t retire, they just get old, sick and die.  They believe their rest comes in small doses and, ultimately, when the journey of life is done.  This is why they are loved and respected so dearly.

In the face of their diminishment and (in some cases) ending, the rest of us are left to wonder what will come of all that we do, all that we shared and the people who relied on the beauty of that support offered for so many years to women and young people in need of care.

We know the Sisters had a special way (at times not so gentle) of communicating their spirit of dedication to our clients.  They taught us more by example and their spirit of commitment so that often one hears older staff say, “I wasn’t taught about Good Shepherd, I caught it”.  This is our dilemma.  How can we lead and teach those who will come after us the wonderfully special ingredients that make up our special service philosophy?  We aren’t nuns, how could I ever be that committed? 

Well, the possible answer is both simple and possible although admittedly more challenging than captured even in one simple word……VOCATION!  Yup, we are not nuns!  We are not always very religious!  Sometimes we are downright too human!  But something drew us into this work within Good Shepherd.  What is that invitation all about…..VOCATION!  Our deepest spiritual selves said ‘yes’ to someone’s invitation to be part of Good Shepherd Service.  Somewhere, somehow, there was a recognition of special gifts you have and the invitation was expressed in the same way the Good Shepherd, Jesus said to his leadership team….”Do you love me (In other words, does what I do make sense?)……..Then COME, FEED MY SHEEP!

Not all of us can stay like the Sisters have done.  But all of us can choose to say yes to this invitation and to carry that YES wherever we go.  One does not have to be surrounded by others or work within a Good Shepherd program to say yes to the Shepherd way.  But for those of us who can choose to stay….who we are and how we engage with others around us will be the means through which we can fulfill our own sense of vocation and how, in the end, we will be the leaders and teachers for those who come after us.  When we say yes to a sense of vocation in this work……we choose to be an integral part of the life spirit of our team, group or organization….we participate as the SOUL of our organization.

WE each, have a choice to make and embrace…..FEED IT!

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So What About this ZEAL thing?

Learned over the years that The Sisters of the Good Shepherd take a 4^th vow of ZEAL.  WOW!  Incredible enough that they have 3 vows of Poverty, Chastity and Obedience….and so, what is this ZEAL?  

Surely ZEAL is not what most might consider a household word.  We know that the dictionary will define Zeal as fervor for a person, cause, or object; eager desire or endeavor; enthusiastic diligence; ardor.

Mary Euphrasia lived by this value and expressed this most profoundly shortly before her death when she said,  I was not the most attractive, intelligent or smart person;  I only loved and I loved with the strength of all my heart and soul.”  She defined Zeal as “Love in Action”.

I have had a tendency to use the synonym of passion to define Zeal when we talk among one another about CORE values of Good Shepherd.  Well I am not one to shy away from words of all kinds but ZEAL had me stumped a bit.

Well, I want to announce that I am undergoing a conversion of sorts.  In the past several months I have had cause to note some very special qualities in some of our colleagues.  Most notably those who have become the advocates for the use of Trauma Informed principles in our work.  I saw “Love in Action” in Halifax during their symposium on Trauma,  I saw it again in Angers when some of our folks who are embracing Sanctuary, Resilience and Risking Connections met together and spoke so passionately about the critical importance of establishing significant, trusting relationships with our young people and their families.  I saw our colleagues as fervent, and diligent in their profound desire to establish a sense of belonging and love in therapeutic alliances they work to create.  I saw “LOVE IN ACTION”.

Good Shepherd teachings from Mary Euphrasia, are founded on this sense of highly valued relationships.  “It is not enough that you love them, they must know they are loved” (SME).  She modelled a special way and gift of engagement with people.  One that most of us must work at diligently to achieve.  And yet it is most often expressed in the smallest, simplest gestures; a smile, walking with someone, asking them about their hopes and dreams, accompanying to appointments, praise and acknowledgement.  For so many years our great staff, along-side our sisters, have done these small things over and over.  They built wonderful alliances and relationships with those we serve.  Now we continue to express the depth of our dedication through new approaches which can only enhance our ability to demonstrate that care, compassion and cheerleading in important therapeutic relationships. These advocate leaders among us are taking us in the right direction!

I have truly loved watching this passion among our colleagues knowing that they are building something more attuned to that which Mary Euphrasia taught us so many years ago.  Their sense of importance and urgency is no less zealous than was Mary Euphrasia’s when she lead the birthing of a new congregation.

Yep, I always had a passion for this work…..now I think I have  the ZEAL!!

Mixing Business with Pleasure

Recently home and cooled out from another great pilgrimage to the Sisters' motherhouse in Angers, France.

With every pilgrimage, we have the privilege of sharing with some very special groups of people.  This year was no exception but also left a particular impression on me.  There were 72 folks who are our mission partners doing all kinds of work in Good Shepherd Agencies from front line staff to leadership and Boards members.  Although we were a group of very different religious and spiritual traditions, it struck me how readily they  participated in religious and spiritual rituals.  At the same time this was also a group of serious professionals who were eager to talk more about their work with one another.....some examples included several, well attended lunch & learn sessions.  They wanted to talk about

• How Trauma informs our work - how we might network to forward our Good Shepherd foundations as expressions of Trauma informed practices
• How we can share ideas about fostering our expression of mission and values in our workplace
• Leadership concerns for senior management and board members.

Often I meet people who are eager to work on the work and at other times to work on Good Shepherd's service philosophy. Are these really two separate worlds?  Can our reflection on how we remake ourselves personally be so separate from how we remake ourselves professionally?  Is there really a disconnect between faith and works? Am I a different person professionally than the person who is home with family and friends?  Which representation is the fake?

I find it disturbing at times to hear our agencies treating Good Shepherd Values and Heritage as if this is an aspect of our work that represents the 'perk' we get to when there is spare time (which, of course, we know there is precious little.)  Who we are as Good Shepherd folks is bound up with our professional roles. This integration is an essential component that we must find more ways to support.....Where the rubber hits the road for me is in direct service supervision.  This is the place where relationships express the lived culture of the agency.  This is the learning center for front line staff.   In Canada here, we tend to call a royal commission when we have major questions that need answers.....I think it is time for us to call a royal commission on our collective style of supervision starting with a look at what we are doing that works well.  How can supervision build a healthy culture?  How can supervision foster our integration of our mission and values knowing these resonate so well with professional standards and treatment principles that we choose to utilize in the care and service of our children and families?

I am most appreciative of spending this time with such committed and dedicated professionals.  Thanks for your leadership and for showing one another the way!  You make our work places our Holy Ground!!